She stood there and stood there. Her eyes drooping and tired. She even at one point drifted off for a half a second and jerked back to attention. My little almost 7 year old has a very strong will. One that we come up against daily around here. And though I make it sound like a bad thing; it’s quite the opposite. For when she becomes 17 and the drugs are being passed around, I can easily see this girl with her arms folded stating something like, “I’m not doing that nasty stuff and you can’t make me.”
But tonight was a different story as we also are faced with the task of bending her will without breaking it. (Something I pray for the Lord’s wisdom on daily.) Tonight she refused to rinse her mouth with fluoride. She was scared. And while the jury may be out on it’s uses and benefits, the point was and is that she needed to do what her parents told her to do. No coercing could get her to change her mind. So I made her sit in a chair until she got sleepy. Then I asked her to stand. She refused for 40 mins to do the simple task we were asking of her. This stand-off, if you will, got me thinking of us and God’s will.
How many times do we stand outside of God’s will with our arms folded, our feet hurting and our bodies tired? How many times do we think our will makes more sense? How many times have we stood there knowing we are defying His calling, ignoring His voice because we simply don’t want to do what we’re told? Or maybe it’s fear that keeps us from doing what He’s asking of us. Aren’t we essentially being like little children testing our maker?
During our calm reasoning with our child, we would every so often gently ask her, “Are you ready to go in there and do that?” She finally realized that no matter what she said or how many times she begged, the answer was the same…”Are you ready?” And finally she said yes. Her and I went in the bathroom and she swirled, swished and spit. She looked up at me and smiled. All of her agony was over…for the night. We will see about tomorrow.
Is God asking you, “are you ready?” about something? Have you been at a stand-off with Him? Remember, He is our Father and knows what’s best for us…even when we think we have all the answers.
It sounds like you’re doing a great job of parenting. One of my three kids had a very strong will. I found the best way of dealing with it was to let her believe she was making the decision to do what she was told to do all by herself. This takes a little practice, but for her it worked. She’s now struggling with her own strong willed child.
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Lol. I do say I hope she 7 kids that won’t eat dinner every night for her. A friend of mine gave me the advice to stack the deck in your favor by giving them choices but all choices you’re ok with. Lol
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Wow! A powerful post! It really made me do some soul searching! 🤗
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I really like this Amy! Yes! Your daughter has to obey you unless you are asking her to do something sinful. And, fluoride is not listed as a sin in the Bible. Personally, I will refuse taking fluoride treatment, but then I am an adult, and so far, I still have the freedom of choice to make those decisions about my own life. The way this world is headed, though, I think we are losing more and more of those freedoms of choice about matters governing our own lives which don’t impact other people’s lives. But, that is another subject. Anyway, I loved how you tied this situation into our relationship with the Lord. The Lord often uses real life situations in my life, too, to teach me biblical truths. Sometimes they are just like parables. 🙂
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Sometimes this is me. Thank God for forgiveness and nudging.:)
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I love how you are handling this, Amy. Bending her will without breaking it! May God give us wisdom and grace to do this. And what a perfect analogy for how we stand before God, unwilling to do as He asks. Great lesson here!
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Thanks! And she did rinsed her mouth out just fine last night!
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Yay!!!!
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Oh boy! How many times have I been the one with the folded arms in my life both spiritually and physically.
Great analogy Amy!
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A rebellious heart, always believes they know best; but God… sill loves us so! #FatherKnowsBest! A wonderful share!
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Thanks. Yes my.little sure thinks she knows best. But I’ve been there many times with God as well
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Absolutely, we’ve all had a rebellious heart. But God, our faithful Father! God bless!
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