Fight, Flight, or Freeze


Fight: Words tumbling, sputtering, spewing from a wide open mouth. No holding back, things said that have been boiling. Seeing red, light-headed, and explosion of endorphins, adrenaline careening through the veins at the speed of light. Fists clenched, heart pounding, confusion and chaos stepping on one another to get ahead.

Flight: Claustrophobia causing pacing and racing across the floor. Shoes flung on haphazardly. Where is the exit, where is the door? Priorities and cares left untouched and forgotten as the door slams a rush of air behind it.

Freeze: Stuck and struck in one position. Blank slate, all wiped clean. A pause that stops time as the world comes to a screeching halt. Clueless, stuttering one word on the lips as the brain cannot catch up with the swirl around it.

When faced with conflict we do one or all of these. It is an instinct carved out for each of us. Which one do you do when faced with conflict?


10 Replies to “Fight, Flight, or Freeze”

  1. Hi Amy, I’ve learned from many unfortunate experiences that putting some time between the event in question and my response is prudent. Emotions which are negative about something are generally better articulated when I’ve given myself sufficient time to evaluate the event after the emotional aspect of my reaction has subsided. It’s not always easy but it is far superior to just letting your emotions rule your response. Regret can also be an emotional experience and the weight of that emotion can and often does, surpass the initial negative emotional reaction. The words that come out of our mouths are our responsibility and once uttered, they may be forgiven but they are much more difficult to forget. Once God opens our eyes to our own shortfalls, which usually takes repeated and sustained applications, it becomes easier to look at the bigger perspective and avoid the knee jerk humanistic fleshly response. The greater amount of time we give ourselves in responding has a direct correlation with the success rate of not adding more negativity to the situation. I’m always reminded that Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who brutally crucified Him because they knew not what they were doing. That’s a very sobering thought. Grace and blessings!

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