Addiction: Inside the Addict’s Social Life

There seems to me to be different phases or stages of addiction when thinking on the lines of the addict’s social life.

In the beginning of dabbling and on the verge of being “hooked” the addict may try to be in his usual environment while being high. Depending on the drug and it’s effects and if they can be easily hidden. Obviously most of those who shoot up heroine aren’t going to be at the family picnic dozing off or running to the bathroom to shoot up. It’s just way too obvious and it’s something a person will do behind closed doors preferably.

But you can find uncle Ned or cousin Beth out in the parking lot smoking a joint during the family wedding of the year. Some drugs are more socially acceptable than others and are easily hidden, when taken within a “reasonable” dose.

When this occurs, it’s easy for the addicted loved one to blend into his surroundings without being noticed. We’ve all heard ourselves or someone else say…”I should’ve known they were using. How did I not know?” My answer is, that it’s not always us being the fool, but that our minds are fooling us. We don’t want to believe that this could be happening to our loved one. Also we weren’t being given enough evidence to convict our loved one of using.

When the path of destruction gets narrower for the addict, they most likely will withdraw into a more acceptable society. They want to feel free in what they’re doing. They want to be accepted and can’t fathom how functioning society could ever accept them. So what happens becomes the old, harsh cliché we all know…”Misery loves company.” It’s a sad thing, but so true.

At this point it can be easy for us to sit back and let them wander and self-destruct. Reasons being, we’re too worried about hurting their feelings or pushing them further away. Or maybe we come from a family where we don’t approach people about their issues. Or we’ve never been given the tools. For me when I was an addict, no one lovingly pulled me to the side and was 100% comitted to helping me. There was much condemnation but never any love.

Is our love and open arms enough to draw them away from a lifestyle of drugs and addiction? Maybe. Over time we can hope they see we’re not giving up on them.

If our loved ones can only find acceptance among other addicts, they will surely stay addicts.

Some of you may be thinking, “Amy, you don’t know so and so and what they did to me. If you did, you’d know why I’ve turned my back on them” my answer to this is, yes I do know what they’ve done because… #1. I was that person once. #2. my mom is still that person. She continues to hurt me with her actions due to her addictions. What I’m saying is that I know there are exceptions to what I’m handing out. I’m focusing on the addict that really does want a better life but sees herself incapable of changing it. So many addicts believe the lie Satan tells them that they can’t get clean that they have no power to change. So not true, or I wouldn’t be here today.

Show them God’s love. Invite them any and every time you can, to get them back into functioning society so that they have a chance at feeling accepted by those who truly love them. I heard this song today. It’s a christian rap song but the words ring so true.

I’ll Find You by Lecrae
Feat. Tori Kelly
Released : 2017

Just fight a little longer my friend
It’s all worth it in the end
But, when you got nobody to turn to
Just hold on, and I’ll find You
I’ll find You
I’ll find You
Just hold on, and I’ll find You
I’ll find You

I’m hanging on by a thread
And, all I’m clinging to is prayers
And, every breath is like a battle
I feel like I ain’t come prepared
And death’s knockin’ on the front door
Pain’s creepin’ through the back
Fear’s crawlin’ through the window
Waiting for em’ to attack
They say “Don’t get bitter, get better”
I’m working on switching them letters
But, tell God I’mma need a whole lotta hope keeping it together
I’m smilin’ in everyone’s face
I’m cryin’ whenever they leave the room
They don’t know the battle I face
They don’t understand what I’m going through
The world tryna play with my soul
I’m just tryna find where to go
I’m tryna remember the way
I’m tryna get back to my home
But, I can’t do this on my own
That’s why I’m just trusting in You
Cuz’ I don’t know where else to go
And, I don’t know what else to do

Just fight a little longer my friend
It’s all worth it in the end
But, when you’ve got nobody to turn to
Just hold on, and I’ll find You
I’ll find You
I’ll find You
Just hold on, and I’ll find You
I’ll find You
I’ll find You
Just hold on, and I’ll find You

They say fear haunts
And pain hates
I say pain strengthens
And fear drives faith
And, I don’t know all of the outcomes
Don’t know what happens tomorrow
But when ocean of doubt comes
Don’t let me drown in my sorrow
Don’t let me stay at the bottom
I feel like this hole is too deep to climb
I’ve been lookin’ for a way out
But I’ll settle for a peace of mind
Picking up the pieces of my life and hopin’ that I’ll put together something right
Some of ya’ll is all I need
Help me stand and fight
Devil trying to play with my soul
I’m just tryna find where to go
I’m trying to remember the way
I’m trying to get back to my home
But, I can’t do this on my own
That’s why I’m just trusting in You
Cuz’ I don’t know where else to go
And, I don’t know what else to do

5 Replies to “Addiction: Inside the Addict’s Social Life”

  1. “Is our love and open arms enough to draw them away from a lifestyle of drugs and addiction?” Very powerful question worth pondering long and hard. Thanks for posting this.

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